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Globalisation, Isolationism, John Lennon, Leonard Cohen, Remembrance Day, Remembrance Sunday, US Election
Remembering, forgetting and making connection
It’s been a funny sort of week, a funny sort of few months, a funny sort of year. Funny, most in terms of peculiar, unsettling, weird. Not too much of laughter really.
My reading has continued, though sometimes I’ve lacked the emotional or intellectual energy to devote to the deep and fine stuff, feeling too raw, too wrecked, too appalled and exhausted , too benumbed by what seems to be shouty, screamy, excess in the political arena, rather than the laying out of complexity which needs reflecting on. Reviewing has suffered, too, a kind of ‘what’s the point’ ennui and laissez-faire.
I was approaching the American election with dread and despair, seeing ‘populism’ on the rise, in various countries, and following its landing here, could see similar infections spreading. A pandemic of dissatisfaction being medicated by flaming invective, illusory promises and soundbites It’s shocking that what is ‘popular politics’ seems to be retrogressive, divisive and narrow rather than the wouldn’t-it-be-wonderful-if-what-was ‘popular’ was inclusivity, connection, a recognition of our common humanity, not to mention the fact that we share our planet with other species, and just as humans need to recognise the needs of shared humanity, we need to acknowledge our interdependence on our Planet Earth, both now, and for the sake of generations which may be to come.
Isolationism, making this little country or that ‘great again’ is a dangerous illusion. We are inextricably linked, each to another.
We have become so fixed on that winners and losers, survival of the fittest, red in tooth and claw view of evolution and reality. But the fittest merely means the best adapted. As a bipedal, not particularly fast, becoming hairless ape, our best adaptation proved to be with each other. We are a tribe animal, and did best by managing collectively together, not purely me versus you, but me with you. And now, we have forgotten that the ‘tribe’ is no longer little isolated pockets untouched by and untouching of each other. The tribe is all of us earth dwellers.
It’s a sobering and darkening time of year in the Northern Hemisphere. The fierce blaze of October fading and quietening, the days shortening, the energies of the natural world going inwards, consolidating, resting, dormant. A beautiful, spare, reflective season as the mask of leaves fall, and reveals the individual beauty of each tree’s core.
The eleventh of November is always a potent day anyway. It took me a long while to come to terms with ‘Remembrance Day’. In my youth, I thought on this day war was being glorified , that conflict was being celebrated. I thought we were being asked to glorify the dead ‘the glorious dead’ when there was little glorious in why they had died like this. I see it differently now. Those who have died in conflict SHOULD not have died in vain, if only we who are living can learn the lessons which their deaths have to teach us – precisely that division and conflict-between-nations will lead to more dead.
It is terrifying that the lessons of not one, but two world wars in the last hundred years (not to mention years of other smaller conflicts endlessly happening) have not been learned, and we seem to be bent on dismantling our recognition that the bellicosity of our nature needs to be tempered and restrained. The more we think ‘greatness’ is this nation against that the littler we become
I thought about those who have died through conflict, and I also thought about two poet troubadours, complex, often deeply troubled men, whose willingness to explore their own contradictions, and the contradictions of the times they lived in, produced songs that said more than simple
Remembrance day brought me to John Lennon’s Imagine, and also to his ‘God’ ( ‘I don’t believe’) We fight each other over so many ‘isms’ Simplistic though Imagine might be, Lennon’s coda, in ‘God’ after all the ‘I don’t believes’ is ‘I just believe in me, Yoko and me’ – that’s reality’. I thought that when it is just down to the struggle and complexity of the ‘You-and-me’ what frees us from that charged fear and hate place of ‘the other’, is the recognition of common humanity. Every day (and I am consciously having to work to notice it at the moment) there are tiny, unconscious acts of kindness and recognition between individuals. THESE people are the ‘little people, the ordinary decent people’ – not what the rabble-rousing populists are claiming as ‘ordinary, decent’
In fact, the populists are asking us to embrace everything that is UNdecent about ourselves, and claim THAT as ‘ordinary decency’
Real ‘decency’ is all around, and probably rarely found inside a whipped-up political rally. And never when what is being whipped is a hatred towards ‘other’
I do believe in the You and Me of us. Writ small, life by life, connection by connection, humankind is full of Wordsworth’s :
that best portion of a good man’s life;
His little, nameless, unremembered acts
Of kindness and of love.
That is all around, if I take the time to notice it. The splitters and those who call to our hate, our rage, our fear, make us forget unity, seeking to bind us together through division and disunity. Us and Them. You-and-Me, by contrast, might simply be We
And, of course, Remembrance Day also brought the news of the wonderfully layered, complex Leonard Cohen’s death. Like many, I’m one who has found the man, and his music and lyrics, an abiding comfort and inspiration. His willingness to own and acknowledge his demons, rather than fly from them and project them onto the other, always made him someone who ‘lived in the light’ The truly whole are those who know they are wounded and terribly broken. The damagers are those who see others as broken and view themselves as right and righteous.
One of the very wonderful gifts Cohen’s lyrics have to bring is that whatever a song is seemingly about, it has the possibility of other, wider, deeper meanings. He was far more than a simple troubadour of the layered love song. Poets, poetic vision, poetic writing not only makes us see the world in a new way, but often welds together oppositions which might seem to want to fly apart. With Cohen, the contradictions are deep and viscerally felt. Love itself is both Eros, and a trans-personal yearning for surrender to the Divine. And also a challenging to the Divine, a wrestling between Eros and Thanatos – the blaze of love and life, the loss of love and life, the ‘ring of bright hair about the bone’. Death feared, Death making meaning, Death the awareness of mortality, giving our loves their fierceness and intensity.
I’ve been listening a lot, over the past couple of days, to my Cohen collection, but also to some of the many covers of his songs. Many by people with voices of far more musicality than Cohen’s. However, for me, the particular laconic, restrained, felt, but not emoted and over-shown delivery Cohen gives us, perfectly allows the listener to experience their own visceral response, in a way that the over throbbed demonstration by others, doesn’t.
There will be no new songs, but we are gifted to be living in a world where we have the old songs, we can play them, even watch Youtube videos of live performance, and, I think, we can continue to find new meanings and resonances in his words, his music, his renditions
madamebibilophile said:
An erudite and thoughtful post as always Lady F. Yes to it all, and so much better expressed than I would ever manage, especially now when all I can seem to manage is incoherent gibberings of despair.
Lady Fancifull said:
Thank you, Madame Bibi. It’s been such a strange time, and I found that at some point, all the listening to Lenny songs had brought a kind of painful peace. I found a YouTube video of a concert I went to when he came to London it must have been in 2012 or 2013 It was extraordinary, and about humans at their kindest, and I think we all felt it, so it’s been quite healing to watch and listen to, even though there are strange tech probe with it so it shows in a double screen. Makes you think you must be drunk!
MarinaSofia said:
Beautiful, you say it so eloquently. Thank you!
Lady Fancifull said:
Thank you too for such kind words!
kaggsysbookishramblings said:
Such a lovely and thoughtful post, Lady F. We’re living through strange times at the moment and we just need to hang on to the shreds of our humanity.
Lady Fancifull said:
Thank you, Karen. Yes, hanging on any way we can.
Sarah said:
Wonderful post, Lady F, so much resonated with me. With all the upheaval at the moment, my attention feels scattered, too. When I was younger I similarly misunderstood Remembrance day, but with the current political shifts in Europe and the US, I thought it held particular significance this year.
Lady Fancifull said:
Thank you Sarah. I wonder, with Remembrance Day, whether the way it is now being expressed, has changed, or whether the perception of its meaning changes, over time, from youth to maturity. I certainly think many of us (as we lurched towards out referendum) had come to see that the European Union was much more than a bureaucratic or capitalistic club, and that ‘ever closer links’ had done much to inhibit the tendency for the countries within Europe to spend their energies killing each other’s citizens
Lucy said:
Lovely, poignant post, it has indeed been a very troubling week. How climate change is not the top of every politicians list is beyond me, and now we have at least four years of the king of capitalist consumerism running the show. The only comfort I have is that, like after wars, the results of a firm and exploitative shift results in new political parties and reforms being put into place, people willing to vote for genuine social change.
And Vera Brittain’s Testament of Youth shaped my young thoughts about war and loss. She was my hero when I was a student nurse, someone who went to the front, lost so many loved ones, honoured them with her service at the same time as being a pacifist. Life is so full of grey areas, I wish the populists nightmare would take that on board.
Lady Fancifull said:
Testament of Youth is a terrific book. I do believe that the acknowledging of ‘grey areas’ requires an emotional and intellectual maturity – which is not by any means dependent on biological age!
underrunner said:
Thank you for your deep reflection. This is also what I feel: while, according to our own persuasions and temperaments, we find ourselves needing to act and react for justice and decency in the world: underneath this, the beauty and wholeness of our days is linked with our open hearted connections with other individuals. In my part of the world, we have been distracted from political concerns by another extended bout of earthquakes causing trauma to many. But each time, in the midst of this, there are quiet and extraordinary acts of kindness and reaching out from others. This doesn’t remove all trauma, but does build relationships and communities, and reminds us life does continue, even if in quite changed forms. Through my life, I have moved more and more to the perspective of: “it doesn’t matter which you heard the holy or the broken hallelujah”.
Lady Fancifull said:
Thank you for this lovely reflection, underrunner.
underrunner said:
And about Leonard, for those of us who have quite a bit of life behind us, the amazing thing is at how many points along the way, his songs have been right songs to listen to. For me, this started at high school, when an insightful nun introduced us to Suzanne. It captured and intrigued me. Most recently: I sing in an a acappella choir; when we sang an arrangement of Allelujah on the weekend in memory of Leonard, half the choir was in tears as were another choir listening to us.
Lady Fancifull said:
So many layers to his words and music